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“Always Leave on a Good Note” is a confidence building idea for children
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Title – Confidence Builder for Children
By – John Bishop
Primary Subject – Other
Grade Level – 3 – 5
- How do you build your child’s self-esteem? I’ve used this idea with my grandson and hope it will help you.
- I tell him “Always leave on a good note.”
- The easiest way to show you how we use it might be a sports analogy, but the concept can be used any time you want to help your child succeed.
- If my grandson Kyle and I have been shooting baskets and it’s time to leave, I will say, “One more basket and then we have to go.” Then I add, “Always leave on a good note.” He knows we will stay until he makes that last all-important basket. Why is that last shot so important? Because it is the one he will remember.
- He knows that by making the last shot he has been successful on the basketball court and that he has “left it on a good note.” Kyle loves it. He leaves the basketball court as a successful shot maker. That success is his memory of shooting baskets with his grandfather.
- We use that same confidence building concept in other areas.
- For example, if he is having problems with a particular night’s math homework, we will “always leave it on a good note.” In this case, after he has successfully completed one of the math problems we might stop for a 5 to 10 minute break. I’ll let him do something else for the short break and then we will finish the night’s math homework. It is amazing how that successful completion of a math problem and a short break refocuses his attitude for the balance of the homework assignment.
- Try the “always leave on a good note” concept. Before long your children will be using the expression themselves, and without fully understanding what is happening, they will be building on their personal success, one successfully completed event after another.
Ideas for Implementation:
- 1. It is vitally important to be patient with your child. In the beginning it took Kyle five minutes to make that last basket, but he never felt rushed.
- 2. Use the “Always leave it on a good note” statement often, so your child starts to think in those terms.
- 3. Congratulate your child on a job well done.
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